I’ve always found it relatively easy to make friends. There was no shortage of them at school, college or work. But now I find myself at a stage in life where I’ve moved to a new county and become a stay at home parent with no obvious outlet for meeting new people. It was easy before. Playing together in the schoolyard or meeting up in lectures, friendships just developed organically. Working in the media meant spending more time than usual with colleagues so friendships became even more prolific.
In my twenties and early thirties I found it tricky to keep up with my friend’s birthday nights out, wedding invitations, catch up dinners and weekends away. I was too naive to realise that although my friendships may have developed easily enough they require maintenance, just like any relationship. Maintenance that I was too distracted or too lazy to give. Far too often I took my female friendships for granted and lost many along the way.
Fortunately for me some of them were willing to put in a little more effort and I’m lucky to still have them in my life. But we only get the opportunity to meet up once or twice a year now and most communication is by phone or through social media. I miss meeting up with female friends for chats over coffee or a night out once a week and a good laugh.
I know that women will be heading out tonight to have a good time and I’d love to be joining them with my own ‘girl gang’. So if you are lucky enough to have good female friends don’t take them for granted. If you can’t meet them today then call or send a message and let them know they are appreciated. My resolution for 2018 is to make more of an effort both with my existing friends and in finding some new ones.
Christmas may be all about spending time with family but ‘Women’s Christmas’ should be all about spending time maintaining and preserving female friendships. For the things that are really worthwhile in life require a little attention.